We are all aware of couples who fight a lot and yet could not stay apart. Their union incorporates aspects of both love and hate. Their relationship may aptly be called a love-hate relationship. Extreme love and extreme hate occur in their relationship simultaneously or alternatingly.
It happens when a couple who has lost a loving relationship still feel committed to each other. It can exist from the very start, such as during the dating stage when one realizes that the other has told lies but they are still attracted to each other. It could happen during marriage when a couple who have loved and admired each other start to dislike each other for one reason or another, such as when one suspects the other of unfaithfulness. These couples still engage in active sex that usually lacks tenderness and often involves roughness.
Hate shouldn’t play a part in any loving relationship. When you become aware of love and hate coexisting in your togetherness, here are helpful suggestions:
1. Accept that there is a problem so you can start working towards fixing it.
2. Resolve the underlying issues that are causing it. It might not be easy.
3. Identify the cause of the “hate” in your relationship and deal with it.
4. Develop the “love” part and eliminate the “hate” part.
5. Both of you should work together to change and improve your relationship.
6. If you can’t seem to make any progress despite your mutual efforts, seek professional help. A marriage counselor knows how to help you stay focused on your goal of improving your relationship.
Change will happen because change is a constant part of life.
Wish you the best of luck!
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